Airpark Toastmasters Win Two Medals at Fall Area C-2 Contest!!!

APTM members revel in the performances of Jackie and Michael!

For the first time in Airpark Toastmaster history, two club members earned medals in Toastmasters International District 3 Area C-2 speech competition!

Michael Goldstein gave one of the most memorable and hysterically funny speeches in the Humorous Speech Contest, and he was awarded Second Place in a very competitive field of talented speakers. Michael owned the stage, using his trademark brand of understated observational humor, recounting his many experiences as a man’s man forced to shop for clothes throughout his life. Michael’s ability to connect with an audience was on full display and the laughter was genuine and consistent throughout his speech. Those of us APTM members who were fortunate enough to be in attendance were so proud of Michael and teary eyed with laughter by the time Michael concluded. It was a stellar performance.

Jackie Das was no less impressive with her astute and entertaining presentation i the Evaluation Contest. This may be the most challenging of all contests, as the contestants can only prepare after hearing the speech during the contest and only having five minutes to collect their thoughts and piece together a competitive evaluation of the speech which then must be presented in an entertaining and coherent manner before the judges and audience. Jackie rose  to the occasion, and appeared relaxed, professional, and personable while offering keen insights and recommendations to the speaker. An outstanding job! Jackie also placed second but advanced to the Cholla Division Contest as the winner was unable to attend the Division Contest due to previous commitments. We know Jackie will represent the club well!

For those of you unfamiliar with Toastmaster contests, the difference between first, second and third place is many times miniscule – to win any of these awards is an awesome accomplishment and a testament to the competitor that they are being recognized by their peers as superior practitioners of their craft. To have two APTM members achieve Second Place in the  same contest is an incredible accomplishment and we are all EXTREMELY PROUD of both Michael and Jackie! What a wonderful night to be sure!

No less wonderful  was the job done by Claudia Sawaf in her role as Contest Manager! Thanks to her and to all the members of APTM who stepped up to take on roles to make this Area Contest something very special! Thank you Adele Blakey, Anthony Contreras, Diane Busey-Bird, and Gwen McCaleb!

-Tom Otstot

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Tribute to Helen Pugh

Tribute to Helen Pugh

Airpark Toastmasters and all who knew her lost a wonderful person with the passing of Helen Pugh this week. She was a nearly 30-year Toastmasters member and a dear friend to all of us. Here are some of the comments from current and former Airpark Toastmasters members on hearing of her passing.

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It is quite a shock, still, even after hearing this news Monday. Helen was so cool. I don’t know anyone who squeezed more life out of life than she did. She was such a lady.

I can see her now, up in heaven, genuinely interested in everything and everyone. And as a new member of Golden Gate Toastmasters, I am sure she is telling the speaker she is evaluating “Your gestures much match your words”.

Helen’s gestures in life did just that. God bless her, we were so fortunate to know her.

TOM OTSTOT
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When my teenager met Helen she said, “She is so cool!” Quite a compliment coming from a teenager. I will miss Helen very much!

SUSIE GOLDSTEIN
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It has been a while since I have been to a meeting, however Tom’s gift for the English language is inspiring.  Your comments are spot on and she will be missed.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

MARC HAMPSON
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I have been very down since I heard the news about Helen, tonight I had the Toastmaster role and I could not stop thinking about her. Helen was truly one of the great ones; not only could she take one idea and in just five minutes give us an amazing speech of her experiences woven into travel and standing next to a live tiger, but Helen deeply cared about all people and it showed every time she was around you. I had many great talks with Helen from her telling me to use more detail at TMs to how we should control lighting better at night in buildings. Helen will be missed, but never forgotten. God bless you, Helen

MICHAEL NIALL
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Funeral Services for Helen will be Friday, April 15 at 10:30 a.m. at Scottsdale Bible Chapel, 7901 E. Shea Blvd. Here is a link to Helen’s obituary in The Arizona Republic.

Airpark Toastmasters Featured in Scottsdale Airpark News Magazine!

By Tom Otstot

A special Airpark Toastmasters THANK YOU goes out to our new friend, Kimberly Hundley, Editor of Scottsdale Airpark News Magazine, who recently did a fabulous cover story featuring our club! Airpark Toastmasters is committed to helping its members develop and build their own personal brand, and this is cutting edge strategy for anyone focusing on building a successful career. Airpark Toastmasters isn’t only about learning to become a great orator, it is about the personal and professional development of each and every member. Your brand is a promise, a promise of the unique attributes you bring to your relationships, your business, and your audience, and our promise is to be there to help you develop and fine-tune that brand. Many of our members have grown from novice speakers with a simple goal of conquering nerves in front of others to professional speakers, authors, workshop presenters, and entrepreneurs finding unique ways to offer themselves to the marketplace. If you are interested in finding out more about how Airpark Toastmasters can help you, click here for directions to one of our meetings!

Speak Up!

Airpark Execs Conquer Fear of Public Speaking

By Kimberly Hundley
Photo by Mark Susan

The notion of speaking in front of a group terrified financial analyst Jackie Das. In college, she’d go to her professors before class and beg them not to call on her. “I missed out on so many opportunities,” she says. About a year ago, Das decided avoiding the podium for three decades was enough, and she joined the Airpark Toastmasters club.

Today’s she’s the chapter president, and credits the public-speaking program with giving her a host of gifts, including the clarity and chutzpah to start a side business. “Once you conquer one fear, it gives you so much confidence in the rest of your life,” she says. “It’s just opened up my world, I would say.”

Das and many other professionals have found a nurturing environment in Toastmasters International, an organization dedicated to improving members’ public-speaking skills. Attendees make prepared speeches, participate in off-the-cuff “Table Topic” discussions, and constructively evaluate one another. It doesn’t take long for them to become not only better speakers, but better listeners. Members say they even think in a more organized and structured way.

“Toastmasters clarifies your thinking, gives you the confidence and skills and the tools you need to build that career, brand or start your own business,” says Tom Otsot, former president of the Airpark club and senior vice president of Grand Bonanza Enterprise. “It’s all about self-development.”

Just about every business depends on communication of some kind—from answering phones to delivering sales pitches. Yet few executives take the initiative to polish their oratory or encourage staff members to get training, a contradiction that baffles Otstot.

“Companies large and small too often overlook the value of public speaking,” he says. “I attend dozens of corporate events in my business each year and am stunned by the lack of investment in communication and presentation skills by the hosting companies. It’s like trying to read a billboard through a car windshield in the pouring rain without wipers: The message never comes across.”

The secret to improved communication isn’t magic. Public speaking is a skill that can be learned and that gets better with practice, like playing music or exercising a muscle, says Kirk Gould, an expert in business process management, who joined Toastmasters 10 years ago to help him overcome what he terms “engineering disease.”

“My brain is thinking how to fix things all the time at any given moment, but I only have one mouth. I couldn’t articulate my thoughts in a way that was working,” says Gould. “One of the biggest things Toastmasters has done for me is when I’m asked a question in a meeting, I can answer it.”

Gould honed his skills step by step, delivering five-minute speeches to the club and applying such tips as memorizing the beginnings and endings of  presentations. “Toastmasters says you do have control over certain things,” he explains. “When you know how to start and finish, it takes the anxiety out of this amorphous blob. It makes things manageable, and you carry that over to other areas of your life.”

It’s hard to think of anyone in the professional arena who wouldn’t profit from better organizing and expressing their thoughts, says Otstot. Take, for example, senior-level executives who return from strategic-planning retreats but can’t communicate the company’s vision to staff, much less get their buy-in.

Job hunters and ambitious employees would also benefit, Otstot adds. Business owners looking to hire want to hear compelling and imaginative ideas from applicants who can build profits, he says. “With unemployment the way it is, you think people would be dragging themselves to these meetings, and they don’t. It amazes me.”

It’s Not All About You
The key to thought organization comes from the self-discipline of going through the public-speaking process, says Fred, who recently launched his own coaching business.

Preparation includes constant editing, practice and timing, and an emphasis on the message rather than yourself. “People paralyzed by fear of public speaking tend to disregard the dynamic process by focusing exclusively on themselves. I teach that you are not under the spotlight; what you are is the messenger.”

Talking effectively is about touching the hearts and the minds of the audience, Fred says. A frequent speaker himself, he spends half his preparation time studying his audience—sometimes before determining his topic. Then he identifies the overarching goal for his speech, crystallizes the message, and works backward from there to craft his presentation.

Clients come to him for a variety of reasons. They may have a presentation coming up at work, received a promotion that requires better communication skills, or found themselves at a professional plateau. Those who shy from public speaking are paying a high price, emotionally, financially and socially, says the pastor. “If you are avoiding meeting people or doing presentations—whether it’s client training or interaction—you’re losing opportunities and relationships, you’re losing the growing edge of your practice and income.”

Fred uses video as well as oral and written feedback during his one-on-one and group coaching sessions. “Excellence is your destination, perfection is your enemy. Excellence is achievable; perfection is not,” he says. “I’m always happy when I can do an Ivory Soap speech: It’s 99.4 percent pure and it floats.”

Otstot also urges speakers to be genuine and personable in order to connect with their audience. “They want to hear your story. Be authentic or your message won’t come across,” he says. “It’s also about the mindset of the audience. You have to create questions in their mind, and then you answer them.”

Personal Branding
Because there are so many businesses in the Scottsdale Airpark, the local club has a particularly high concentration of entrepreneurs. Club officers decided to tweak the Toastmaster mission statement accordingly, adding a focus on communication and leadership skills that foster personal growth.

“We are there for you to build your personal brand,” says Otstot. “In this day and age, everybody is a free agent. Your career is yours to manage, and development is up to you. You can’t go out and sit in a cubicle anymore, hide and not have an opinion, and expect to have job security.”

Several members of the Airpark club have launched new businesses since joining and working the program. It’s as though speaking thoughts aloud in front of witnesses unleashes an electric synergy.
“You’re thinking more clearly, listening better, and articulating thoughts better than before,” Otstot says, describing the spark. “You start to think, ‘I might like to start my own business.’ The process of getting your thoughts out there clarifies what you are all about.”

Otstot himself is a prime example. He joined Toastmasters just to stay sharp because he often works solo in his regular job. But the club experience spurred him to develop an entire new business speaking to such companies as JC Penney and Dial on how to foster a culture of innovation within their organizations. Das has followed her passion to assist women reentering the job market, founding HeadStart Career Services.

Anthony Kirlew, owner of (a.k.a.) Internet Marketing, joined Toastmasters last month to better master the art of public speaking. Each club has its own flavor, explains Kirlew, who researched several local groups before selecting the Airpark club for its blended professional and personable vibe. “I would recommend it to any business owner, because communications is such a huge part of what you do,” says Kirlew. “I drive all the way from the East Valley just to come.”

Otstot swears the program has transformed every single person who has worked it. “People will start off with knees shaking, voice quaking, visibly trembling, and then the process sneaks up on you,” he says. “And it doesn’t just work within Toastmasters, it works within everything you do.”

Make Your Elevator Speech Great
By Fred R. Doidge, Public Speaking Is Fun!

What do you say when someone asks, “What do you do?” Ready or not, you respond with what’s known as the Elevator Speech. Hopefully, you can give a brilliant response in 30 seconds. A poor answer can be a professional kiss of death, and none of us wants that kind of kiss. Here’s how to give a great Elevator Speech:

> Briefer is better – Keep it short and sweet.

> Simple structure – Start with a positive, focused opening of 4 to 6 seconds; follow up with a core message of 15 to 18 seconds, stating how you can help your listener (this is not about you); close concisely in 4 to 6 seconds as you offer your business card and mention how the person can connect with you.

> Passionate preparation – After you’ve written your speech, practice it. Set a goal to be clear and error free in 28 to 30 seconds. Use a stopwatch.

> Test it – Audition before 15-20 people and ask for their feedback. Take notes, and revise to improve.

> Personal presentation – Use a clear, warm voice and maintain eye contact. Though your Elevator Speech will be memorized, it can still be personalized, so use your best communication skills and, if possible, address the person by name.

Public Speaking Tips

1. Figure out what you want the outcome of your speech to be, then work backward from that goal: analyze your audience so you understand how to talk to them; determine what your message is; decide how you will deliver it.

2. Always be introduced—even if you have to do it yourself—and be sure to write your own introduction.

3. Know your material so well, you can focus on the audience.

4. Remember the I:You ratio. For every reference in your speech to yourself—“I”—include a “you” for the audience.

5.  Don’t be perfect. Do be personable.

6. Focus on your message, not yourself.

7. People love to hear stories, so use them as an effective speaking tool. Tell a story and use it to make your point.

8. Keep a few index cards in your pocket noting interesting facts related to your topic. If you blank, buy yourself some time by pulling out a card and saying, “Before I go any further, did you know ….?”

9. Get the beginning and ending of your presentation down cold. If you know where you’re starting and where you’re ending, you’ll have less anxiety overall.

Compiled from suggestions by Tom Otsot, and Kirk Gould


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Another Airpark win at Area C-2 Contest!

Thanks to the members who came out to support Tom and Michael!

Tom Otstot won last Friday’s Area C-2 International Speech Contest, and Michael Goldstein was fabulous competing in the Tall Tales Contest as well! Our club was well-represented, with members Adele Blakey, Jackie Das, Brad Taft, Bob Ectman, Anthony Contreras, Diane Busey-Bird and Gwen McCaleb all there to enthusiastically support our competitors in both contests. What an awesome club we have!

What steps did Tom take to become a top-level speaker? Step one was the most difficult…

Tom Otstot moves on to the Cholla Division Contest which will be held on Saturday, April 2, 2011, at the Camelback Church of Christ, 5225 E. Camelback Rd, Phoenix, AZ 85018. The contest begins at 10am. Let’s all plan to show up in force to cheer Tom on as he defends his Division title!

Michael and Laura – You Did Us Proud!!!

By Tom Otstot, President

The Fall 2010 C-2 Area Contest was held last night at BMW of North Scottsdale, and members Michael Goldstein (Humorous Speech Contest) and Laura Orsini (Evaluation Contest) were fantastic!

Michael gave the best speech we have seen from him yet in his 18 months with APTM. The crowd roared with laughter throughout his funny story of a job interview gone wild, especially at the point where his absent-minded interviewer asked “Why did you leave your last job”, to which he replied “For religious reasons…my boss thought he was God.” Michael’s unique dead-pan humor was on full display, and the many members of APTM in attendance were delighted and proud to have Mike representing our club in the very crowded field of contestants.

Laura Orsini, APTM’s very best speech evaluator, was fabulous in the Evaluation Contest, connecting with the audience and making some incredibly insightful and salient points about the test speech all contestants were tasked with evaluating. It was Laura’s third appearance representing APTM as Club Champion at the Area Contest, and while she placed Second overall many attendees came up afterwards to tell her she placed first on their own ballots.

Laura and Michael both brought their “A” game and we as a club were extremely proud of their performances.

Of all the issues that come up regularly within the Toastmaster International community, few are as hotly debated and discussed as contest judging. One of the things a Toastmaster learns fairly quickly when participating in the annual contests is that the value in competing comes from the experience, not necessarily the outcome. While “winning” is gratifying, the real “win” is in the enormous progress you get from going through the contest process. The contestant finds, usually a few weeks after the contest, that their ability as a speaker, their knowledge of speechcraft and performance, and their self-confidence has risen to a signifcantly higher level than before. This is the true value of competing. It is an experience unmatched by any other in the Toastmasters program, and the great thing is that every participant enjoys the same result, regardless of the final results of the contest. While contests are applauded and eventually forgotten, the skills obtained from competing are ever-lasting, and no one can take that away from those with the courage and dedication to put themselves out there and compete.

Our admiration and affection for our talented and courageous contest competitors; Michael Goldstein and Laura Orsini, are as high as the new levels of expertise they have realized as a result of their efforts to compete.

Great Job and Thank You Both for representing Airpark Toastmasters last night!

Speaker Tips: Face Front and Remember to Breathe!

Speaker Tips: Face Front and Remember to Breathe!

Airpark Toastmasters has recently implemented a new feature, called Speaker Tips. One more experienced member gives a short, useful speaking tips to the rest of the club.

Face Forward

The first tip, from Laura Orsini, was about the importance of never turning one’s back on theaudience. The first step is learning to use the room well – rather than standing planted in one spot. However, many novice speakers move to the side – or the front – of the room, and then inadvertently turn their backs on the audience as they return to their primary spot. It’s a skill that requires practice – step forward and then retrace your steps, moving backward.

Another option is to walk in a V – step forward and right or left, then return in reverse.

Additionally, if you need to use a whiteboard or have some other reason to turn from the audience, do so from the side, as much as possible. Always make sure they can see your smiling face.

Remember to Breathe!

Sunil Ahuja brought this tip to the club. Although it’s normal to get nervous, you don’t have to succumb to those nerves. A quick, easy way to quell the nerves is with proper breathing – from the belly.

Belly breathing is a slow deep breathing  technique where your belly expands when you breathe, rather than your chest.  Likewise, when you breath out, your belly contracts.

For the best effect, focus on the spot about 2 to 3 fingers below your navel and 2 fingers in. A couple of deep breaths from the belly will cause the fog, nerves, and jitters to clear so that you can deliver your speech with conviction.

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If you’re reading this as a potential guest of Airpark Toastmasters, we sure hope you’ll visit us next week! We’re friendly and supportive – and we do lunch after almost every meeting! Hope to see you soon.

The Secret of Mastery

The Secret of Mastery
by Tom Otstot, Airpark Toastmasters President 

My 9-year-old son Kyle, despite temperatures hovering around 110 degrees, convinced me to take him to our Little League field to throw him some batting practice this past weekend. Kyle is a seasoned youth athlete, having played basketball and soccer since he was six, but baseball is a sport he only began a year ago. Fielding has been fairly easy for him to pick up, as his hand-eye and foot coordination transitioned naturally from the other sports, but hitting has been a challenge and is the weakest part of his game.

On this particular day, however, Kyle was making solid contact on virtually every pitch. I threw harder. He continued to crack the ball right back at me, almost effortlessly. It was a vast improvement from the last time I threw him BP and I commented to him my amazement at his new-found skill.

“What changed?” I asked, “What are you doing differently?”

He said to me, “Dad, I figured out the secret. The secret to getting better at hitting…is to keep hitting!”

He went on to explain to me that for the past year, he has heard so much advice (much of it from me!) on how to stand, where his hands are supposed to be, what to do with his head, how to rotate his hips, get that front foot down, extend his arms, etc., but the thing that actually is working for him is taking every opportunity he can find to simply practice hitting itself. Many times you will find him out in the backyard, hitting whiffle balls off the tee, or rocks from the side borders of the yard (which I restrain myself mightily from objecting to…), or Nerf balls in the family room.

He has learned a valuable lesson that every aspiring speaker must learn if they are serious about getting better – Improvement comes from DOING!

Darren LaCroix, the 2001 World Champion of Public Speaking, refers to this principle with his mantra “Stage Time, Stage Time, Stage Time!” He received this advice from his mentors in the comedy world while struggling as a fledgling stand-up comic, and committed himself to taking any and every opportunity to get up in front of an audience and perform in order to improve. Very simply, he observes:

My comedy mentors put it this way: How can you be funny in front of an audience unless you are comfortable in front of an audience? Yes—it’s that simple. Stage time is the essential element for bettering your performance. And it’s the same in the presentation world: how can you be EFFECTIVE, unless you are comfortable in front of an audience?

Why do we hesitate to take advantage of the opportunity to speak at our Toastmasters meetings? FEAR. We fear failing, or struggling, or not being perfect. Unfortunately, there is no other road available to us to take us to the destination we desire. We will never be effective as speakers until we are comfortable in front of our audience.

Toastmasters offers us the best opportunity to get the “stage time” we need to master public speaking. Not only will you receive the encouragement and acceptance of the other members who want to see you succeed and grow, you will also receive the valuable feedback that will educate you on how to improve. Too often, as members we cancel our speech at the last moment, or hesitate to volunteer to speak at next week’s meeting, usually because we feel we won’t have enough time to prepare enough to be perfect. But, the hard truth is, you won’t master public speaking by osmosis! No more than Kyle will improve his hitting by watching other hitters take batting practice.

The secret is in the DOING. When you think about it isn’t this a rule that applies to everything in your life? We get better by DOING, so I urge all my fellow Toastmasters to take a different approach, learn the lesson of a nine year old Little Leaguer, and put yourself out there as often as you can! If you do, soon you will be hitting it out of the park!

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If you’re reading this as a potential guest of Airpark Toastmasters, we sure hope you’ll visit us next week! We’re friendly and supportive – and we do lunch after almost every meeting! Hope to see you soon.

Life Lessons from the International Speech Contest

Life Lessons from the International Speech Contest
by Laura Orsini, VP Marketing/PR

“Anytime you suffer a setback or disappointment,
put your head down and plow ahead.”
– Les Brown

Whether it’s a juried art competition, the Olympics, American Idol, or a Toastmasters International Speech Contest, the judges have the final say – no matter who else in the room disagrees with them. We at Airpark Toastmasters learned that the hard way last night as our fearless champion, Tom Otstot, gave the speech of his life. Entitled “Three Words,” Tom spoke humorously, eloquently, and passionately about the three words that changed his entire paradigm: LET LIFE LEAD. His message was that life doesn’t always work out the way you plan it, but when you get where life takes you in spite of your own best wishes, it’s usually precisely where you need to be.

Ironically, last night didn’t turn out the way any of us would have guessed or planned, as Tom failed to place in the Top 3 out of six. To a person, there was nothing but jaw-dropping astonishment around our table (made up of APTM members, as well as members of other Arizona Toastmasters clubs) as the results were announced. I personally heard two people come up to Tom after the contest and tell him they would have placed him in the #1 spot. Strangely, though, the judges didn’t see it that way at all. I won’t deign to guess or try to surmise what might have gone into their decision-making, but I hope from the bottom of my heart that Tom knows we know he was outstanding, and we so very much appreciate all his hard work and the amazing job he did!

It’s a year away – and anything can change between now and then – but it’s my sincerest desire to see Tom come back to the 2011 contest and take first place. Kind of like Julie Andrews receiving the Oscar for Mary Poppins because she’d been previously overlooked (due to Academy politics?) for the lead in My Fair Lady

Congratulations to Michael Desiderio, of Epicurean Toastmasters, who will represent District 3 in the semifinals of the International Speech Contest this coming August in Palm Desert, California.

Tom spoke at a recent meeting about his desire to teach his children how to lose gracefully. In my humble opinion, this should not have been his moment to teach them that lesson … but I know that if anyone can let life lead him to the best response and lesson for his kids, it’s Tom.

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If you’re reading this as a potential guest of Airpark Toastmasters, we sure hope you’ll visit us next week! We’re friendly and supportive – and we do lunch after almost every meeting! Hope to see you soon.

Toastmasters Spring 2010 Conference: Superseding Expectations

Toastmasters Spring 2010 Conference: Superseding Expectations
by Laura Orsini, VP Marketing/PR

Toastmasters is Toastmasters is Toastmasters, right? Well, yes and no.

Since joining Airpark Toastmasters in October 2004, I have participated in the following ways:

  • Regular attendance at Thursday Airpark Toastmasters meetings
  • Serving as VP of Education and VP of Marketing/PR for several differnt cycles
  • Attending Toastmasters Leadership Institute (TLI) multiple times
  • Competing in and attending contests at the Club, Area, and Divison level

Today, I am attending my very first district conference. The District 3 2010 Spring Conference, titled “A Star Among Stars,” is superseding my expectations.

How It’s Different

As our members know, the energy at our club meetings is usually high, and the enviroment friendly and supportive. The District 3 Spring Conference takes enthusiasm and energy to a brand new level. Word of warning to all Airpark Toastmasters members: We WILL be attending the Fall Conference as a group – so keep November open!!

Things That Have Happened So Far (it’s just 1:45 p.m.)

  • I gave a well-received educational seminar about Creating a Legacy Club. People seemed most impressed with the quality of my PowerPoint presentation. If your PowerPoint needs a boost, ask me how!
  • I met Socorro Luna, president of Cooltown Toastmasters in Coolidge, Arizona, who gave me some fabulous ideas for marketing my own book, great ideas for improving our club, and info about a monthly dining club called Well Done.
  • At lunch, I sat next to Lois Sicking, who is campaigning to become the Toastmasters International Director. She, too, has great ideas for improving our club.
  • I met a gal from Tucson whose club hosts their meetings on a local cable access station every other week. They’re always looking to guest clubs for speakers. Anyone up for a ROAD TRIP and to be on TV??!
  • I met Kally Reynolds, author of Of Frogs & Princes, a new relationship book for women who have been there before.
  • I heard a presentation from Superstition Toastmasters about recruiting via video, specifically YouTube. Joey, I’ve got the handout to share with you!
  • We’ve got our banner displayed in the dining room, along with some 40 other clubs. Note to members: at least we’ve got 3 ribbons, but we’ve got a L-O-N-G way to go!
  • Tom Otstot was named as a brand new Competent Communicator during the Educational Awards Presentation.
  • We all were privileged to hear Jason Schechterle speak about how, following his life-changing accident in March 2001, he took to the life of an inspirational speaker … something he never would have seen himself doing before. Jason was the recipient of the Spring Communication and Leadership Award.

And who knows what is still to come! I’ve been busy drumming up support for Tom at tonight’s International Speech Contest. Sure hope to see some of our intrepid members come out to cheer him on!

Look for future posts, as there is more to come, for sure!

Cheerio!

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If you’re reading this as a potential guest of Airpark Toastmasters, we sure hope you’ll visit us next week! We’re friendly and supportive – and we do lunch after almost every meeting! Hope to see you soon.

The Toastmasters Evalaution Process Is an Invaluable Tool for Improving Your Speaking Skills

The Toastmasters Evalaution Process Is an Invaluable Tool for Improving Your Speaking Skills
by Laura Orsini, VP Marketing/PR

I just read an interesting article entitled, “‘The Feedback Sandwich Is Out to Lunch,” in which the author claims that the typical feedback process of (1) positive statements, (2) constructive feedback, (3) overall positive statement doesn’t work because “[E]mployees aren’t stupid. After a few examples where the boss ties criticism to compliments, the formula is easily recognized by anyone who has heard it more than once. So now everyone knows that as soon as you hear praise, you know that you will be criticized.”

This may (or may not) be true in a typical work environment, but in the nurturing biosphere that is Toastmasters, a feedback sandwich is the perfect way for a scheduled Evaluator to offer constructive feedback to the scheduled Speaker he/she is assigned to evaluate. Here’s why it works in Toastmasters.

The entire point of joining Toastmasters is to improve something, or several things. Public speaking. Listening skills. Leadership. The only way to improve is to receive – and act on – the feedback of someone else who listens to you speak. I’ve visited clubs where the entire emphasis was on positive, feel-good responses to the speeches, and any sort of constructive feedback was actually discouraged. I’d never join such a club, because how on earth are you supposed to improve your speaking skills if no one tells you what needs improving?

I’m reminded of a teacher I had my junior year in high school. Although grammar, writing, and research have always come naturally to me, it was disconcerting to receive a big red A on my papers without another mark on any of them. Even at 16, I was savvy enough to know I didn’t know everything, and regardless of whether my papers exceeded the minimum standards, there had to be ways I could improve my writing. But without constructive feedback from my teacher, I had no way of knowing what those improvements were. The same is true of Toastmasters.

There are, however, some guidelines for giving a productive evaluation.

  1. Every evaluation is just the evalutor’s opinion. Yes, this opinion may carry more weight when it belongs to a boss or superior – but in Toastmasters, you should feel free to accept the parts that work for you, and toss the rest.
  2. Evaluations work best when delivered in a spirit of positive improvement, rather than of tearing down.
  3. Because they are public, Toastmasters evaluations should be fair, and refrain from any browbeating or intense scrutiny. Any “calling out” that needs to be done (and I’ve only seen this happen once in my 6 years with our club) should be done privately, not in front of the entire audience.
  4. The Evaluator should not apologize for offering constructive feedback. I once gave a terrible speech. I was ill-prepared, used notes, and simply wasn’t at my best – and my Evaluator called me on it. All of it. I was a bit embarrassed, but more so because I knew he was right than because he told me about the problems with my speech. He felt so bad, though. He apologized to me pretty much every time he saw me for the rest of the time he was a member. I wish I could have reassured him that he was just doing his job, and he had nothing to apologize for. If I’d been more prepared and given a better speech, he would have given me a more positive evaluation.
  5. As veteran Airpark Toastmasters member Joey Sampaga always says, “Better to mess up in front of the club than to mess up in front of an important, REAL audience.” If you come to your speech with a spirit of wanting to improve, the Evaluation process (both formal and written ones from the rest of the audience) is an invaluable part of the Toastmasters experience. Another veteran Airpark member, Tom Otstot, will be representing the Cholla Division in Saturday’s International Speech Contest at the District Conference. What kind of feedback do you think Tom wanted after his most recent speech? The critical kind! He knew he needed the constructice feedback and suggestions of the audience to improve for this contest. If he were arrogant and thought he didn’t need the critique, he probably wouldn’t be at the level he is right now.

If you’d like to learn more about giving and receiving positive feedback, Airpark Toastmasters will be hosting an Open House and Workshop Series entitled “Presentation Perfection on Friday, April 30, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. at our regular meeting place, Keller Graduate School. This is the same general time of day we hold our meetings, but on Friday, instead of Thursday. Join us for food, networking, and camaraderie. The seminars will be:

11:20 a.m.   Tips for Overcoming Your Public Speaking Anxiety

12:20 p.m.   Giving and Receiving Constructive Feedback for Best Results

   1:20 p.m.   Secrets for Running Effective Meetings

Please join us – and tell your friends! The event is free and open to the public, but we are limited to the first 100 people who come through the doors. Please call 602.518.5376 or e-mail OpenHouse@WriteMarketDesign.com to RSVP. If you’ve been thinking about stopping by, now’s your chance.